To be your best version of yourself, you may need to transform
By Elaine Symanski
KC IABC Masters member
If you’re yearning for a major change in yourself, you may find it’s time to stop trying to fit in and time to transform.
Marty Stanley, certified life and business coach, led a lively discussion about how to redefine or reinvent your career after age 50 with members of the KC IABC Masters group at a dinner meeting.
- Starting your own business
Many people later in their careers decide to leave their full-time jobs, or that decision is made for them via a layoff, and then they try to start their own business. Some, however, have no solid commitment to self-employment; rather, “they hang out their shingle while they look for a job,” Marty says. Of course, their business is not successful because they had no solid plan.
“If you decide to go solo, this is not a hobby,” Marty says. “You have to decide that this is your full expression of yourself and what makes you happy. You also have to sell your services, which is why most businesses fail.”
Before deciding to start your own business, give serious thought to what makes you happy and how you want to feel when you work with your clients, Marty advises. Then come up with a realistic business plan, which includes how to sell your services, then place your full effort on working your plan. Most people don’t want to sell or market themselves or their business, which is why only about 1 in 100 businesses succeeds. And give it time, because it’s a rare business that’s an overnight success.
Many older workers report being passed over for jobs or promotions that went to younger people. But some older workers continue to excel at their organization because of their age, not despite it, Marty says.
Being “too old” is often a state of mind, rather than reality, she says. “Think not of your age, but of how you are adding value. You’ve had to think situations through and make decisions. You can bring a level of stability to the workplace and a sense of organizational objectives. And you won’t get all caught up in drama.”
Besides positive thinking about your age as an asset, appear contemporary instead of old school. “Your hair, your dress, your shoes, your tie and your conversation” all send out signals about how you view yourself. And don’t talk about age and constantly remind your co-workers about the way things used to be,” Marty advises.
- Know your strengths
“Every time we try to mold ourselves and adapt ourselves to a situation that doesn’t feel right, it never works out,” Marty says. “It affects our performance and ultimately it affects our health.” So when you reach the point where you want to transform yourself, first do your homework.
Marty recommends Strengthsfinder 2.0 by Tom Rath, a book with a timed online assessment that was first published in 2001 and that has helped millions find their top five strengths. The book also contains hundreds of strategies for applying your strengths. Pinpointing your strengths can help you build your resume around your strengths, rather than a traditional chronological resume, Marty suggests.
- Preparing for an interview
Networking is what gets you interviews, more than just a good resume, but what wins the job offer is the ability to sell yourself during the interview. “People get hired on their listening skills and on their vibrational energy. So ask yourself, ‘How do I want them to feel during this interaction? What body of knowledge do I possess that no one else has? How can I package that to be the person who’s the top candidate for the job?’”
- For more information on transformation
Marty is the author of a new book, From Type A to Type T: How to Be a Transformational Leader in a Bottom-line World.
In it, Marty covers:
- How to integrate body, mind and spirit to enhance personal relationships.
- How to create a future vision and action steps for personal and organizational change.
- Practical steps to create healthy, empowering and collaborative families, communities and workplaces.
For more about Marty see www.alteringoutcomes.com.